Myth When a boy and a woman take part in sexual behavior and it is the boy's idea, he is not being abused.

Fact

Child abuse is an act of power by which an adult uses a child. Abuse is abuse; a woman engaging in sexual behavior with a male child is still sexually abusive, even if she thinks he initiated the contact.

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Child sexual abuse/incest

Common myths about child sexual abuse and incest

By Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD